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Salaams and Good Morning !
Here is your daily dose of Wisdom for Living Your Best Self!
When we think of emotions, most of us only focus on how they "feel" but this is only part of the picture.
Psychologists explain that each emotional experience has three components. Understanding these three components of our emotional experiences is an important step in helping us manage strong emotions.
Here are the three components:
1) The Feeling/Physical Component: "How I feel in my body"
Emotions manifest in internal sensations in our bodies which can include heart palpitations, stomach distress, sweating, hot or cold flushes, shortness of breathe, fatigue, muscle tension or increased energy.
2) The Thinking/Cognitive Component: "What I say to myself"
How we interpret
events and experiences and the self talk that we engage in greatly impact what we end up feeling and doing. If someone cuts us off on the highway, for example, what we tell ourselves about the other driver will make us feel either anger or sympathy for them.
3) The Behavioral Component: "What I do"
Our behaviors upon feeling an emotion are usually direct reflection of our thoughts and our physiological arousal associated with the situation. If I tell myself that the driver may be having a bad day, I might wave an understanding hand at them. If on the other hand, I tell myself "How dare he do that? Who does he think he is?" I am likely to do something far less friendly!
Can you see that as we become more aware of the three components of our emotional experiences, we can become
increasingly better at managing strong emotions in difficult situations?
Wishing you a day full of positivity, purpose and peace.
Warm blessings
Marzia
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for a list of recommended books on building your emotional intelligence
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Have you listened to the podcast yet?
Family Connections Podcast
Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ by Dr. Daniel Goleman.
Touching on psychology and neuroscience, the expert on brain and behavioral sciences, Dr. Goleman explains the crucial skills for success offered by emotional intelligence that can determine your success in relationships and work and may impact your overall health.
Emotional Intelligence 2.0 by Travis Bradberry, Jean Greaves, and Patrick M. Lencioni.
One of the most famous on this topic, this book is focused more on ways to use EQ to improve your life. You’ll find a step-by-step program for increasing your emotional intelligence that focuses on four core skills: self-awareness, self-management, social awareness, and relationship management, along with activities that will help you boost each of these areas.
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey.
The classic on self-growth, this book remains a top seller and go-to for millions around the world. Taking a less conventional approach to the subject, he isn’t focused on emotional intelligence per se, but rather presents a guide for anyone looking to better understand and control their emotions. The seven habits described in his book all require an awareness and control of emotional intelligence while
teaching people how to become more proactive, a big-picture thinker, manage various interaction while building more effective communication.
The Language of Emotional Intelligence: The Five Essential Tools for Building Powerful and Effective Relationships by Jeanne Segal.
A great resource for finding information on using emotional intelligence to build better relationships with just about everyone in your life. Segal lays out a simple step-by-step program on how to use five basic tools of emotional intelligence to enhance your relationships through better communication, reading non-verbal cues, and gaining skills at diffusing arguments and conflicts before they get out of hand.
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