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Saying the word YOU after I am sorry will most likely invalidate your apology.

I’m sorry you feel that way
I’m sorry you think that way
I’m sorry you misinterpreted things
I’m sorry you are so sensitive

Even though these phrases begin with the words I am sorry, they are not really apologies at all. These phrases take no ownership of any wrongdoing. They do not communicate remorse for our actions nor express any empathy towards the other person’s feelings.

When we say I am sorry YOU, we are suggesting that the hurt party was wrong to feel upset or hurt. That they are being irrational or over sensitive.

This is not really an apology for our actions, is it?

A pretend apology like the above will result in increased anger as the offended person recognizes that they are being blamed instead of being apologized to.

There is, however, one way we can insert YOU in an apology and make it meaningful and here it is:

I am sorry. You are right, and I was wrong.

Hard to say sometimes, but so so meaningful and healing.

Wishing you a day full of positivity, purpose and peace.
Warm blessings


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Lots more resources on living your best self

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Here are some book recommendations on learning how to apologize

Why Won't You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner PhD, Cassandra Campbell, et al.

Sorry About That: The Language of Public Apology. By Edwin Battistella

When Sorry Isn't Enough: Making Things Right with Those You Love by Gary Chapman and Jennifer Thomas

Art of the Apology: How, When, and Why to Give and Accept Apologies by Lauren M. Bloom

Effective Apology: Mending Fences, Building Bridges, and Restoring Trust by John Kador

On Apology by Aaron Lazare

The Power of Apology: Healing Steps to Transform All Your Relationships by Beverly Engel

The Five Languages of Apology by Gary Chapman

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